125: ADHD and How to Respond to the Non-Believers

Jun 3

Tracy welcomes you to Episode #125 of ADHD for Smart Ass Women where she invites the ADHD non-believers to join her for a little education. She gets requests for this podcast every week so she decided to do something about it.

Tracy shares:

Why the authoritarian model of parenting doesn’t work with an ADHD child
Nora Volkow’s research about ADHD and interest
What the NIH, AMA, U.S. Surgeon’s General, American Association of Psychiatry and the U.S. Department of Education all say about ADHD
Whether or not there’s ADHD in France
If it’s true that ADHD is strictly an American phenomenon
What it means that more kids are getting diagnosed with ADHD
What happens when ADHD is not treated
If it’s true that everyone has a little ADHD
If ADHD is an invention of modern society
If video games, social media, smart phones are making people more ADHD
Whether or not medicating kids for ADHD turns them into addicts
Why willpower, consequences, discipline and punishment is the wrong formula for the ADHD brain
What happens to children when they’re told that they’re lazy, unmotivated and need to work harder
What works to motivate ADHD children
The one question you should ask yourself about your ADHD child.

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Quotes:

"These kids, they need you on their team. They don't need to be fixed, they're not broken. What if you took the time to explore their world instead of trying to force them to fit into yours." 
-  Tracy Otsuka

"I always ask parents who want to do things their way. So how's that working for you and your child? Because, after all, they wouldn't be talking to me if all was going well, would they?"
-  Tracy Otsuka

"In any of these relationships. If you feel like everything is wrong with you, nothing is ever right with you, you're unheard. You're only expected to just stay in your place and do your work that no one cares. Well, then quite simply, you need to be in a different environment."
-  Tracy Otsuka

[00:00 - 21:33] ADHD and Its Validity as a Medical Condition

  • Tracy emphasizes the importance of educating oneself on ADHD to improve relationships with non-believers.
  • Tracy encourages listeners to educate themselves using reputable resources, such as scientific literature and ADHD experts, to better understand and support their children with ADHD.
  • Tracy addresses common arguments against ADHD, including the idea that it doesn't exist and that it's simply a lack of motivation, and provides evidence to the contrary.

[21:33 - 36:56] ADHD Prevalence and Diagnosis in the US 

  • Tracy argues that ADHD is not an American invention but rather a global issue, with rates of diagnosis varying between 5-11% depending on the study.
  • Experts believe that ADHD is underdiagnosed, especially among girls and adult women, due to differences in how it manifests in their brains.
  • Tracy suggests that the increased availability of distractions in modern society, such as technology and video games, may contribute to the development of ADHD symptoms in children.

[36:56 - 42:25] ADHD, Parenting, and Self-Esteem

  • Tracy cites examples of successful people with ADHD, such as Thomas Edison and Ellen DeGeneres, to illustrate that ADHD is not a hindrance to success but rather a unique perspective that can bring creativity and intensity to life.
  • Tracy argues that ADHD is not a behavioral problem but rather a deficit of interest, motivation, and emotional regulation, leading to learned helplessness and a lack of control over outcomes.
  • Tracy emphasized the importance of identifying supportive relationships and finding the right environment for ADHD individuals to thrive.








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EPISODE #125
Resources:
Dr. Nora Volkow's regarding the Dopamine Reward Pathway in ADHD
Dr. Ross Greene: Kids Do Well If They Can
ADHD Child vs. Non-ADHD Child Interview
Father to Father: Robert Dendy
Putting the efficacy of psychiatric and general medicine medication into perspective: review of meta-analyses
ADHD: Types, Symptoms, and Treatment Options
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
adhdrollercoaster.org
https://alcohol.org/
https://ourworldindata.org/
https://www.nytimes.com/
Sir Ken Robinson’s Ted Talk on Gillian Lynne who had to move to think. Here’s the excerpt: Sir Ken Robinson tells the story of Gillian Lynne Here’s the full TedTalk: Do schools kill creativity?
Erin Ez shared this link that gives you a real world snapshot of how your child feels struggling with attention and learning challenges: Through your child’s eyes

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