Jun 8
Join Tracy for Episode #130 of ADHD for Smart Ass Women where she talks about challenging kids with ADHD and the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) system developed by Dr. Robert Greene. CPS was developed as a way to diffuse power struggles between parents and their challenging kids, specifically kids with explosive behavior issues. It’s used in juvenile detention facilities, prisons, schools and of course with families around the world.
Tracy shares why even if you don’t have kids you will learn something about yourself from this podcast, why telling an ADHD child what to do, doesn’t serve them or the parent-child relationship over time, the most important role that a parent plays in their child’s life, the question she always ask when she’s trying to figure out what to do next, the statement that underpins Dr. Greene’s CPS philosophy and changes everything, why switching from drill sergeant to coach and collaborator is so much more effective with ADHD kids, the problem with lagging skills and how to assess them, the 3 Step CPS system and whose opinion must be considered to address challenging behaviors.
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"I credit my ADHD for some of my greatest gifts."
- Tracy Otsuka
"Pay attention to your instincts. Stop listening to everyone else."
- Tracy Otsuka
"ADHD, it’s a deficit of interest, motivation and emotional regulation."
- Tracy Otsuka
- Tracy discusses the effectiveness of tapping therapy for trauma, citing its use by organizations like the Veterans Administration and Kaiser Permanente.
- Tracy discusses a study on dog intelligence, highlighting that bigger dogs have larger brains but perform better on executive functions, specifically short-term memory and self-control.
- Tracy emphasizes the importance of treating children as human beings with thoughts and feelings, rather than as soldiers who must be obeyed.
[24:07 - 45:58] Involving Children in Problem-Solving
- Tracy observes that her son's motivation has decreased, and he is questioning himself, feeling less confident, and has shifted his goal from getting an A to just passing the class.
- Tracy emphasizes the importance of listening to children and involving them in problem-solving, rather than simply offering solutions or jumping to conclusions.
- Tracy encourages parents to test solutions with their child, make adjustments as needed, and communicate openly about the plan and its effectiveness.
- Tracy reflects on her approach to raising her teenage daughter, influenced by the book "Reviving Ophelia."
- Tracy and her daughter agreed on a game plan that worked for both of them, including regular check-ins and a curfew to ensure her safety while still allowing her to have a social life.
- Tracy encourages parents to become collaborative problem solvers with their ADHD children, emphasizing the importance of curiosity and emotional regulation.
