Dec 23
We know that shame grows in silence, but the thought of actually sharing our traumas and innermost thoughts out loud can feel so scary that many of us end up burying it down deep instead. Allison Lane, a marketer for non-fiction authors and people who should be, tried using this approach with her own childhood trauma; for years she kept everything inside, afraid of making others uncomfortable and unable to face it herself, until a suicide attempt forced her to confront how much pain and shame she had been hiding, and how isolating it was to carry her trauma alone.
Once Allison started sharing openly about her experiences, she discovered how empowering it was to be able to say, “this happened to me, but this is not me.” Now, her mission in her work is to empower other women to share their stories and to use their voices in a way that reaches people. Allison has seen firsthand the value of sharing our stories and shedding light on our shame, and I hope her words give you the courage to let down some of your own walls, even when it feels vulnerable.
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"Now in my work, my mission is to enable women to tell their stories and share their messages and do it in a way that reaches a lot of people."
- Allison Lane
"When you are a child of trauma, multiple unspeakables, you try and not make people uncomfortable. And that's the side effect of masking. So in my mind, I had an idyllic childhood because those are the times I like to talk about and remember. And most of those moments I was alone with books in my little rowboat floating on the pond next to our house or rowing to the island."
- Allison Lane
"I may look like I grew up in a fantasy land, but when I share openly ‘now this is what happened,’ it just opens everyone's doors because the shit we don't talk about drives me crazy. And the more we actually share our true experiences and how we've developed scars and show off those scars and say, look at this, look at what I survived and how I learned from it, or how that fueled me or how I'm still wounded, the more we connect with people."
- Allison Lane
- Allison shares her experience with ADHD, including missed diagnoses and a male doctor's understanding of the disorder.
- Allison discusses her childhood experiences with trauma and how it impacted her relationship with reading and imagination.
- Allison reveals traumatic experiences to husband after 15 years of dating, including her father's violence and her own emotional struggles.
[27:51 - 49:07] Trauma, Healing, and Authenticity
- Allison shares her experiences with trauma and how it has shaped her life, emphasizing the importance of talking about it to heal and empower others.
- Allison shares insights on trauma recovery and the importance of talking to someone about milestone experiences.
- Allison reflects on her career journey in branding, from Fortune 50 companies to startup life and beyond.
- Allison credits her ADHD diagnosis with empowering her to quit a toxic job and use her skills to help authors birth books.
- Allison praises the guest for their writing speed and marketability, highlighting their ability to present their work effectively.
- Allison acknowledges her struggles with perfectionism and overwhelming emails, leading to a misunderstanding.
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Website: lanelit.com
Email: allison@lanelit.com
