8: Why Am I Always Late? ADHD And Time

Jan 14

Tracy was inspired to talk about this topic from one of the members of her . She shared her story about always being late. Not intentionally, but because she doesn’t have a good grasp for how long things will take. When she made the effort to be on time (because it is important to her) it took every bit of her focus. “Why,” she asked, “is time so hard for me?” Here are Tracy’s insights about time in this part one episode. Why does the ADHD brain struggle with time? The first part is understanding why we do what we do. Once we understand why it can be easier to find work-arounds and resources. We’ll cover that in detail in part two in the next episode. You have to hear Tracy’s dating story about showing up late – and then being less than truthful about it. This was one of the experiences that helped her realize that time was an issue for her. The ADHD brain doesn’t have a good understanding of time. We don’t know how many minutes or hours a project can take. Find out why this skill is so hard for us. Cooking a meal and hosting guests is another example of how the lack of time-awareness can cause issues. Hear Tracy’s go-to solution and results. Hear what she learned when she decided to time herself on a few kitchen-related tasks. Hint: her estimate was much less than actual! Being on time is a value for Tracy. Is it a value for you? Tracy’s research on time explains that time has to be learned. Many ADHD people do not have a fluid awareness of time because we can’t see it or feel it. Find out why distractions can impact our best time-management strategies. Time issues are also related to memory issues. Tracy explains why they are linked and how one impacts the other.

Tracy explains future myopia and how it impacts the ADHD person’s understanding of time. You’ll no doubt see yourself in this explanation. Arguing with time is a thing. Do you find yourself doing this? How do your beliefs impact your timeliness or lack of? Do your time-beliefs work for you? Recurring appointments, yes or no? Does putting everything on the calendar work for you? Tracy shares how asking for help with planning and scheduling has helped her. Emotional regulation is a part of why we struggle with time and Tracy explains how it can impact you. Next week Tracy is sharing what’s working for her and others. It starts with understanding ourselves and what matters to us. Having that information is imperative. That’s why Tracy created.

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Quotes:

"I am a smart woman. I'm ambitious. I do get things done. But why is it that I always think that I can do more than I actually can do. And what happens is, I'm so optimistic about time that I'm never on time." 
-  Tracy Otsuka

"For many of us, time has to be learned, we have no ability to feel a fluid shifting of time. In order to understand time, you have to physically see and feel time. And we can't do either one of those things."
-  Tracy Otsuka

"Sense of time is one of the executive functions."
-  Tracy Otsuka

[00:00 - 09:05] ADHD and Time Management Challenges

  • Tracy was often late for dates and appointments due to her ADHD, which made her feel selfish and uncertain about her character.
  • Tracy struggles with time management due to ADHD, often underestimating the time it takes to complete tasks.
  • Tracy has learned to work by putting her head down and focusing, rather than trying to plan and schedule everything.

[09:05 - 15:47] Time Management Challenges for Individuals with ADHD

  • Tracy explores the complexities of time management for individuals with ADHD, revealing personal struggles and insights.
  • Tracy discusses challenges with executive functioning, including distractions and working memory issues.
  • Tracy discusses how people with ADHD struggle with motivation and time management, often forgetting important tasks or appointments due to a lack of emotional regulation.

[15:47 - 26:41] Emotional Regulation for Individuals with ADHD

  • Tracy discusses her struggles with time management and scheduling, preferring to stay focused on tasks until they're completed rather than following a strict schedule.
  • Tracy struggles with planning and scheduling, preferring recurring events like getting her hair done to avoid last-minute decisions.
  • Tracy discusses the inconsistency of ADHD and how it affects time management, sharing her own struggles and strategies for improvement.





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